Last week, I wrote a post about some of the challenges which empaths face and stressed the importance of self-care which is specific to their unique needs. In case you missed part one of this post, you can find it here.
This week, I’m going to get into some of the specifics and discuss some tips I’ve picked up or developed over the years when learning to navigate these waters myself.
Tip #1- Ask yourself if the feelings that you’re experiencing belong to you. Yes it can really be that simple. Most of the time, just the simple act of stopping the flow of feelings/emotions long enough to ask if they’re yours, or if you have any logical reason to be experiencing them. Sometimes, when overwhelm has already set in, this can be harder to sort out but most of the time it becomes clear right away.
Tip #2- Schedule regular alone time. Even if you can’t have the whole house to yourself, schedule some regular time when you can go in a room, close a door, even if it’s only for a few minutes at a time and just be still. Let yourself breathe and empty your mind, even if only briefly. Preferably for a little longer, but sometimes we have to take what we can get.
Tip #3- Try guided meditation. Look specifically for ones geared toward calming, chakra clearing, and relaxation. Being able to release the tension associated with over-stimulation is the goal here.
Tip #4- Learn what your time limits are, and do your best not to commit to social engagements which last longer than your limits. My limit is somewhere around a few hours in most situations, so I try to schedule accordingly.
Tip #5- Carry, wear, and spend some time touching certain crystals which are known to have calming qualities. A few of these are lepidolite (which interestingly enough is good for sorting out emotions), amethyst, opal, and rose quartz. I also recommend the use of some grounding and/or negativity clearing stones such as black obsidian.
Tip #6- Remember that it’s okay to say no to things which you know will stretch your comfort levels to their limits. Of course sometimes we need to do things outside of our comfort zones, or even want to. That’s the way life is. At the same time, we need to understand that our needs matter enough to respect them as much as we respect those of others.
Tip #7- Do your best to make sure that you are able to leave when you need to. While this isn’t always possible either, I have learned from plenty of past experience that simply knowing that you aren’t stuck somewhere can help. There are definitely times that knowing you could leave isn’t enough, and you will need to. This isn’t something which you should feel guilty about, and owe no in depth explanation for. Think of what you would tell someone about staying at a party if they had a bad headache. Would you insist that they should stay? Didn’t think so. 🙂
Of course there is a lot more that I could share, and I will put more material together in the future. For now though, it is my hope that the 7 tips in today’s post will help you or inspire you to find your own ways of self care.