a person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual.
As an empath myself, I understand the difficulty in finding a balance between recharging your batteries and maintaining a fulfilling social life. Coming into the world as a sensitive can make the waters tricky to navigate, especially when there is no real guidance throughout childhood. While other sensitivities present plenty of sticky situations of their own while undergoing the learning process, for today we’re going to focus on self-care for empaths.
Walking into a crowded room or through any place where there are a lot of people can be overwhelming for a person who easily picks up on the emotional states of everyone around them. Even after learning what is happening, it can be a real challenge to learn how to slow down long enough to figure out where feelings are coming from and how to deflect some of it. One of the biggest steps that an empath takes is learning to tell if the feelings that wash through them are theirs or someone else’s.
The reason why that step is so important is that it is the starting place when it comes to learning to let emotions flow through us as opposed to overwhelming us. Once we learn to slow down long enough to objectively ask if there is any reason why we would reasonably experiencing a particular emotion and find the answer to be no, it makes taking a deep breath and letting it go a lot easier. Be gentle with yourself about this. It took me over a decade to work my way through it all, and I still have my moments from time to time…when I simply need to remove myself from the situation and find a quiet place.
Being an empath really is a gift, even though sometimes it can make you feel like an outcast. There’s no way to explain what it’s like to walk through a room and be barraged with varying emotions to someone who does not share that gift. So, while it’s nice when the people in our lives are understanding of our need to remove all of the stimulus for a while to regain some energy, it isn’t a guarantee that they will, and that is okay. The goal is not to get others to see things our way.
The ultimate goal is learning to respect the boundaries that we need to put into place in order to navigate our lives as comfortably as possible. Understanding that the need to put some distance between ourselves and the world on a regular basis is not a negative thing is one of the biggest favors that an empath can do for themselves. Taking that quiet time, when there is no influx of energy is a necessity. Just like people who are extroverted having a need for a lot of social contact is normal for them, the need to minimize exposure regularly is normal for us. Neither is better or worse than the other. It simply is.
When it comes to the people in our lives, it can get a little dicey at times. Just realize that we do not have to explain ourselves…that no is a complete sentence. Empaths can have a really hard time with that because we are so attuned to the feelings and needs of others that we can fall into the trap of seeing everything and everyone else as being more important than ourselves. The fact that we are more sensitive to external stimulus than roughly 80% of our peers doesn’t make us inferior. It simply gives us a different set of parameters to live within.
Next week, you can expect a post with some specific tips, pointers, and exercises which I’ve learned over the years to help empaths navigate their lives with more ease.